Here we are in a brand new year. Many of you may have New Year’s Resolutions to go along with the ringing in of said new year. Less weight, more exercise, less smoking, more quality time with the family, better quality food, more focused time on your business. All of these resolutions comes along with high expectations to DO! DO! DO! and to achieve those goals. If the expectations aren’t met – to your satisfaction or to your desire – there can often be a big let down or disappointment. And some harsh words. “Self,” you may say, “you’re weak. and lazy. and unmotivated. you can’t even accomplish this one thing you set your mind to do. Sheesh.”
May I suggest something different this time around? Celebrate the small gains. Celebrate walking an extra block. Celebrate smoking one less cigarette today than you did yesterday. Celebrate that quiet moment of tenderness spent with your kids saying bedtime prayers. Celebrate one less cookie consumed. Celebrate what you Do accomplish.
Be kind to yourself. “Self,” you may say, “way to go. You walked further today than yesterday. Yippee!!” “Self, you are rockin’ this thing called Life. There was a full plate of muffins and donuts lying out at work today. And you only ate 1! Last year you would have eaten 4 or 5! Wahoooo!”
When you’re in bed at night, celebrate what you DID mark off the to-do list, rather than all that you didn’t manage to complete. Celebrate even the smallest of steps towards that resolution. Even if…? Yes, even if it wasn’t 100% of what you set out to do. Even if. The smallest steps, taken again and again, lead to bigger distances covered. Bigger gains.
Leave love notes for yourself (and your family, if you’re so inclined) reminding yourself how special, unique and wonderful you are. Get ready for your day with a decorated mirror smiling at you every morning. Surround yourself with positive.
Having “good thoughts” has a positive impact on your brain – it physically changes your neurotransmitters. And encourages more of the same. It gets easier and easier to then accomplish those goals you set for yourself.
This resolution season, be more kind to yourself.